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Monday, January 31, 2011

Adoption News and More!


Things are moving along nicely on the adoption front. T&I got parts 1 & 2 of the application to our placing agency completed this weekend and sent part 2 off to our social worker as we need to review and discuss the questions from part 2 with her. We also heard last week that DCFS approved our homestudy, so that can also be sent in at the same time as our application for review. Once our placing agency approves our application and HS, they will generate a letter that will allow us to submit our I-800A. We are hoping everything will be approved and ready to go such that we can submit our I-800A towards the end of the month!

On K's hair front, I have really liked the double stranded twists I have been doing with clips, but was scouring the web for videos of some other styles I would like to try. It is hard because her hair is still so short, it really limits the styles, and she is too old to do puffs like you would for a baby. I am thinkng about trying some rope twists and then hoping I can do a twistout so she can wear it loose for a couple of days after. The hair is so short though that I will probably have a lot of rope twists and am trying to find the time to set aside to get it going.

This weekend was the first attempt at cooking Colombian food. I tried to make empanadas with aji. I found the website mycolombianrecipes.com (want to give Erica a shout out for the awesome site and great recipes! - photo credit also, note to readers: that is what empanadas are suppose to look like!) the other day and decided that everything looked so good that I should start trying one recipe at a time. I give myself an A for effort. I ended up using lamb instead of ground beef, which was an excellent choice if I do say so myself and used my tortilla press instead of a rolling pin. Overall, the ones that turned out were very tasty. I did have problems with the oil heat getting to hot, then not hot enough and several of the empanadas opened up in the oil which was disgusting as they ended up being filled with grease, so I will have to work on my sealing technique, but overall, not bad for my first attempt.

We will be praying for some families this week who will be traveling soon to Colombia to bring home their children and hoping our whole family doesn't get hit with the yuck that E1 has right now. Looking forward to 24" of snow over the next couple of days and maybe some sledding time with the kiddos!!

Tuesday, January 25, 2011

Are you there God? It’s me, J


I was reading a family’s adoption story the other day on their blog and was totally and completely blown away at how God has moved on their behalf through their adoption journey. It was really an awe inspiring story, the kind of story you hear about in amazement on the news or during a moving homily at church. When we started our adoption journey for E1, we had that kind of story, but we also had more doubts than the number of rasinettes I could eat in any give day. E1’s adoption story was a blow your hair back on your head, awe inspiring, really flipping amazing, can’t possibly deny God’s presence in story. And T and I both love telling it to anyone who will listen. As we begin our 4th journey, I look back on E2 and K’s adoption stories and don’t really see anything that I would define as awe inspiring. What I do see the quiet presence of our Lord through the highs and lows of these adoption journeys. I see how my doubt or questioning was answered through faith in Him, I see how He walked with us along the long and winding path, and I see why He knew that E2 and K would fit seamlessly into our hearts and our family.
In my selfishness of wanting to have that awe inspiring story for all my kids, I failed to realize that we didn’t need an awe inspiring story for E2 or K’s adoption and we don’t need an awe inspiring story for #4 either. God spoke to us six years ago to put us on this path. We have been walking on that path ever since. It’s like asking for directions on how to get to Route 64 when you are already on Route 64 (sorry T, had to throw that one in there!). I have no doubt that God will lead us back to the path if we stray, but right now, he is quietly dropping supportive families and friends, resources and guidance in our path for this 4th adoption journey. The blessings we have received over the past 6 years have been indescribable. Our God is an amazing God and doing His will is awe inspiring in and of itself. And when we tell E2 and K their adoption stories, they will know it as well.

Friday, January 21, 2011

13 on the way to 31

It official. Or maybe I'm just certifiable. For many running a 50k would be nuts. But running two? Who on earth do I think I am? Well on March 26th we'll find out. With only 62 days (notice the nifty countdown timer on the right side) its time to get down to business and log some miles.

So its from 7 to 10 to 13.1 in three weeks.

But tomorrow its not about me. Tomorrow I'm running for Rosemary. A friend working through her 3rd round of chemo.. fighting off an unexplained fever.

Lord accept my steps. My labored breaths. My soon to be cold and probably aching legs. Lord accept this offering and provide relief to Rosemary, Bruce her husband, and their children.

Tuesday, January 18, 2011

Davids has a Family! Praise God

Read the story here http://little-did-i-know.blogspot.com/2011/01/soaring-heart.html

Wednesday, January 12, 2011

Urgent prayers: Please pray for a family for this amazing young man

UPDATE! WE ARE HEARING THAT DAVIDS HAS A FOREVER FAMILY THAT HAS COME FORWARD TO ADOPT HIM...MORE NEWS TO COME! KEEP PRAYING!

Dear Friends and Prayer Warriors:
I have prayed over the last few days about how to share this story, and I have no words to adequately express it. However, it has to be shared and I will do my best. Many who have heard it are so sick over it, our hearts just ache. We know God has a plan; is it you?

In January, 2010, I met an awesome child/young man at an orphanage in Riga , Latvia . His name is Davids. He was one of a few children we were introduced to that day for consideration in our Summer 2010 orphan hosting program. He was really sharp and smart, had a great sense of humor and looked you in the eye when he tried to speak the good amount of English he had already learned. I remember asking his favorite things to do and he didn’t hesitate to explain he loved kite flying in the sky and dreamed to be a pilot some day! He also enjoys soccer, basketball, swimming and all sports. But, the thing that surprised us most was his age! He was already 15 and effectively the size of a 9 or 10 year old child. We asked the orphanage director more about him later, and were told Davids is healthy, just small and has the kindest, gentlest heart. He generally plays with the younger group of kids because the older ones make fun of him and claim to be “too cool” to hang out with a guy his size. As for history, he has been in 4-5 different orphanages, but has managed to keep hope for a brighter future. He is a sincere and especially child towards younger children. Lego building is one of his hobbies! I remember, he made a joke when I asked him if he liked dogs and cats…a traditional question we ask… He said, “of course! But, I am no cannibal.” And gave us the biggest smile of all! Later, when he was among the group and doing art projects, he drew a picture of a jet airplane landing under a sky that resembled the American flag. When I asked him to explain it, he told me, “My dream to fly airplane and live in family in America !” From that point, he had us at “hello” and we were committed to helping him fulfill his dream.

For the summer program, Davids was hosted by a multi-cultural, multi-racial family and he did awesome! He was kind to his younger host brothers and sister and enjoyed just about everything they did. He especially liked to build and make things and play sports outside, with swimming being one of his favorites! He learned a lot more English and wasn’t shy to use it either. While his host family was not his forever family, our team and staff was so thankful when we received a call from a couple who wanted to go and visit with him before his return to Latvia . We knew time was short, and we encouraged anyone who might be interested, to meet him asap. After one meeting, the family who went, let me know they would be adopting him and how encouraged and inspired they were by Davids. After many discussions, we realized that he needed to know the plan, as his birthday was coming up…his 16th birthday, which means several things to an orphan. First, it means they are about to age out and can’t be considered for adoption. Second, it means that they are on their path of graduating the orphanage and will soon be on their own. Third, it means life as they know it now: food, shelter, protection and security is about over. In the first year after a child leaves the orphanage, generally 15% commit suicide. So, it was decided for me to talk to Davids when our interview returned to Latvia this past August and see how he felt regarding this adoption.

When I sat down with him, I had a translator with me, but he didn’t need her. We sat on a sofa in the social worker’s office and I asked him how he liked America and what he thought? He explained he loved it, and it was more than he ever imagined! I asked him if he remembered this particular man who came to meet him and spent time with him the week before he returned to Latvia , and he said “Oh Yes and we had fun!” I went on and said, “Well, this man told his wife about you and they want me to tell you they are so happy, and they want to adopt you.” Davids’ look was utter shock! He said, “Who, me?” and I confirmed it was indeed him. He said, “Oh yes! VERY VERY much YES! And, they want ME?” He was just the most excited kid I think I ever had the pleasure to tell about an adoption. Most kids are shocked, but usually have to think about it and have several questions to ask before they really accept it and consider it as real. Davids’, on the other hand, was just the happiest kid on the planet that day; his dream was coming true.

Last week, I got an email from his adoptive family… now just 10 days before his 16th birthday,it basically said they felt that they would adopt a girl they met (which was planned all along), but they no longer wanted to adopt Davids’. They had changed their mind. The next day, I got an unsolicited email from Davids’ social worker in Latvia . This is what she wrote:

"Hello Le Ann,
I wish to ask you about one of our boys, his name is Davids T. He was hosted Summer 2010 at a host family in IL. Since he was close to 16, we got information and you shared with him that there is family who will adopt him. It was not the family who hosted him, but another one.
Till this day we never received more information about the adopting family, and we confirmed that the Ministry also has no information yet. I must share, we are all worried and concerned. Davids became so nervous in this last month, his attention to everything is gone. Yesterday he was moved to hospital, because of problems with his stomach relating to the stress of not knowing. We know this all is because he is so close to his 16th birthday; it's on 23 January this year.
We don’t know what to say and can't say anything to Davids because we don't know. It will be a shock for him if it's not true, he has so long lived with this thoughts focused on this adoption and a family in America .
We wish to know the truth to share so he can know and be happy again.”
We have tried to contact his family and explain, show them, what their decision has done to this child. So far, there is no response, but more importantly, there is no time with only a few days that remain for someone to file the I800 with USCIS to adopt Davids’. I have explained to his social worker what the full situation is, and as a strong Christian, she has agreed to pray earnestly with us for a new family to come forward for this child! The adoption agency who was working on this case has agreed to do everything they can to expedite the adoption and assist where possible to get them through the system.
If you or someone you know is interested in moving NOW to adopt Davids’, this is what needs to happen:
1)You must already have an approved home study issued by a Hague Accredited adoption agency in the USA . It must be able to be amended to show you are approved for at least one child, a boy, who is age 16 or under.
2)You must be willing to file with the USCIS the form I800, which will specify Davids’ as the child you intend to adopt, and it must be received prior to January 23, 2011. If done, this gives the adopting family 180 more days to complete the adoption.

Please join us in immediate prayer and action to locate and identify Davids’ Forever Family!!! You are out there somewhere and God knows exactly who you are and He doesn’t make mistakes. We just need to get the word to you about him."
Le Ann Dakake, Director of Hosting Programs, New Horizons for Children 678-313-8321 cell

Sunday, January 9, 2011

Our 4th Adoption Journey

A few of you have asked how this adoption will be different from our other adoptions. The biggest difference is that with our other adoptions, we were a waiting family. This means that we waited for a child to become available for adoption. In the case of our first adoption, we waited a few months, our second adoption, we waited almost half a year, and our third adoption, we waited just weeks. The wait for an adoptive family often depends on the age and gender of the child as well as the country’s processing time for adoptions already in the system. A lot of the paperwork submitted for an adoption is date stamped so agencies sometimes wait to have a family begin their paperwork so there is less chance something will expire while the family is in process. To give you an idea of how long families are waiting for the referral of a child in Colombia, here is the most recent list. Families requesting a healthy infant between 0-12 months old have been waiting almost 3 ½ years! By now, I imagine those families have re-defined what they think patience is.

Age of Child ------- Date of Application Approval by ICBF

Child 0-12 months ------ May - 2007
Child 13 - 23 months ---- May - 2007
Child 2 years ----------- Mar - 2006
Child 2 - 3 years -------- Feb - 2007
Child 3 years ----------- May - 2006
Child 3 - 4 years -------- Nov - 2006
Child 4 years ----------- Oct - 2006
Child 4 -5 years -------- May - 2007
Child 5 years ----------- Aug - 2009
Child 5 - 6 years ------- May - 2008
Child 7 years ----------- Jul – 2010

Unlike our other adoptions, this time we are requesting a waiting child. That means that the child has been waiting for a family instead of the family waiting for a child like our other three adoptions. Many times, a waiting child has special needs (minor or major) or is older than the age of 8. As we knew we would be requesting a child younger than 8, T and I discussed and researched special needs we knew we could say yes to. When our homestudy was updated, our social worker included these special needs along with the age range of children we were open to. If there is a waiting child matching our homestudy, we can request the child’s file. Then we pray pray and pray some more, asking Our Lord and Savior if we are the right family for this child. No problem…right???

Wednesday, January 5, 2011

1013 miles down... oh my how many more?

Destination Kinshasa, 7080 miles from Chicago. That's a lot of exercise miles miles. With the daily bike trainer miles, progress is moving along more quickly. Though it will still take over 1 year to complete. Unless I can average 125 (exercise) miles per week. Yeah right. But each journey begins with a single step. Tonight, I crossed over the 1000 mark. Yeah!

As J posted a bit below, however, we already have the next "Destination" lined up. Destination Columbia (Bogota). That will be another 2704 miles. Yikes, that's a whopping 8771 miles.

I think we better stop adopting kids, else I'll be booked with exercise miles until my last days..

Peace