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Monday, April 23, 2012

Trauma Conference Recap

We spent the weekend san kiddos at a conference for parents of kids with trauma. At last years conference, I can say I left feeling like superwoman with all these great new tools in my belt for helping my kids to heal. This year was so different. We made so many connections with amazing families and got to share stories, successes and failures, but I left the conference feeling doubt. And not just a pinch of doubt, a whole whopping mountain of doubt. I have an immense amount of respect for the speakers and families at the conference so hearing everyone gasp and the room go silent after I mentioned in a small group that the kids grandparents were taking them to Disney World this fall, I was utterly horrified. I felt a little better after another family talked about their trip to New York City with their child and the accommodations that they made to give sensory breaks and unwinding time, and saw how it could be done in a safe and therpudic manner. T tried to talk me down afterwards from the ledge and reminded me that we don’t live our lives by isolating our children from experiences, and that we have a more “That’s How We Roll” attitude, I agreed, but the little voice in the back of my head keeps saying, “yah, but you’re stupid!”. Sure you could go 90 mph on the highway and not wear a seat belt and not get in an accident but is it responsible? Just because we can does it mean we should or that it is the best decision for our family. We will be going to Disney, because that’s how we roll, and we are accepting the fact that one of the adults might end up in the hotel pool with K the whole trip barely setting foot on the Disney grounds. Taking K to Colombia was a freaking train wreck. But if I had the decision to make again today, I wouldn’t have done it differently. So in a nutshell, that either makes me incredibly dense or a gluten for punishment. Stay tune for Therapeutic Parenting 101 – Trial by Fire

3 comments:

Ted said...

Oh KK will set a foot in disney. Two feet even. The question is whether those two feet will make it back on a 2nd day.

Eileen said...

People share, we listen, we discuss with the other person who is in this with us and then, plot our own course.
Please, don't let it be the gasp that stays with you. My hope would be that hearing about planning breaks, taking time to make the world small again, being willing to change course when necessary by observing our kids and not the people around us at any event/place telling us what THEY think we should do.
I kinda think that gasp could be - "wow! You are going to go bungee jumping?!"
And there are people who will say, "ahh yes. yes, we are."
Please forgive us for imagining what our disasters may be on such an exciting venture.
You guys bungee jump - and we will be encouraged by you.

Jodie said...

Thanks Eileen. I like your comment about thinking of the gasp in a different way as opposed to the "wow! you guys are crazy and stupid way" :)